Why I Gave Up on Guys (And no this isn't a rant post)

If you know me, you know that I am a huge traditionalist when it comes to relationships.  I want old fashioned romance.  I want old fashioned chivalry.  I want the first guy I date to be my husband.  I don't want to hold hands until I am engaged or kiss until my wedding day.  Poor guy who gets stuck with me, right? 

I vowed to God I would not date until I was out of high school. And I didn't. High school graduation came and I hadn't once been on a date. Freshman year of college I didn't date either. The Lord had not brought anyone into my life and I was content being single. This April I went on my first date. Nothing came of it and I was OK with that. Then this summer I found myself searching. I was wanting a relationship and I was wanting it right now. I was wanting a relationship with a guy more than I was pursuing my relationship with the Lord. 

I also realized that the expectations I had were so high that no human could meet them. Ha! Do not misunderstand me. I am not wanting to lower my expectations, just change them so I don't miss someone the Lord has for me because....Oh man, you don't play guitar....sorry I can't date. Or you didn't propose in a big enough way...so I'm gonna have to say no.

So I have set a few goals for this year without guys...yes a whole year! Until August 17, 2014.

1. That I would fall more in love with Jesus that I ever have before
2. Contentment in being single 
3. Spend this time pouring into freshman girls, especially since I won't have a guy taking up my time
4. That the Lord would change my expectations of romance, of men, of relationships. Change them into what He intended and not what this crazy hopeless romantic thinks they should be

So here's to an amazing year! May the Lord be glorified!

Kati C.